Living in the Present Moment

“Time is nothing more than a series of present moments.” – Dr. Dwayne Dyer

 I’ve been lost in the moment several times lately, it’s seems funny to say that, but it’s so true.  I was watching a bird as it was looking for a meal, hopping along in the grass under the trees.  Chances are that bird wasn’t thinking about cleaning the nest, what it would eat for dinner later that night, where it would sleep, what to do in the case of a storm, or where it would fly next.  That bird was living in the moment, carefully inspecting what was in front of it, finding a tidbit of something, tasting and enjoying every morsel it could find as it found it.  All the while it was also noticing the wind, feeling the earth under its feet and listening to its surroundings. 

 I realized that in that moment that bird was living life to its fullest potential far more than I do at most moments throughout the day.  What a humbling thought and an eye-opening one. 

 Animals don’t worry about things moment to moment or where their next meal will come from unless we put them in a cage and they become dependent on us.  Even then they are simply trusting that what they need will be there when they need it and they are still living in the moment. 

 So, how is it that we allow ourselves to get so consumed with time, not wasting it, spending it wisely, scheduling it, saving it, and why do we think we have any type of control of it what so ever?  We don’t.  All we ever have is NOW.  That’s it.  There is only the present time.  We contemplate the future – in the present.  We remember or cry over the past – in the present.  All we have is the present time.

 I’ve heard the saying, “Live in the Now,” over and over from so many directions for years, but I guess I never let it really sink in or thought about it enough to really grasp that now is all there really is.

 Your time is now.  If you use time fretting over all the things you have to do, planning something you want to do, thinking of something you should have done, you are STILL using it.  How much fuller would life be, how much more enjoyable, more extraordinary if we just stop and focus on the now?  Even the mundane things in life become enjoyable

 How many moments have slipped by as we were focusing on other things?  All we have is now.  Sure we have to arrange our time as human beings in our busy world, but how much sweeter would life be if we arrange to invest our time in things we want to do, then stop, quiet the mind, and focus on experiencing everything in that moment? 

 Cherry Coley ©

Unconditional Love – What an Example!

One of the best examples that we have of unconditional love is found in our four-legged friends. 

A dog will love you and celebrate you being back with them whether you’ve been gone 5 minutes or 5 days.  It’s all irrelevant because the only thing they care about is NOW and that you are there for them to see, love on, play with, and entertain. 

In that sense, they are also a great reminder of how to live in the moment.  A dog isn’t thinking about how you didn’t keep a promise 5 minutes ago or fifteen years ago.  A dog isn’t going to stop and debate whether you should have to work to earn his trust back or whether you need to do other things to win his favor. 

For that matter, a dog isn’t going to try to convince you that you should act this way or that way in order to be accepted or allowed to hang out with them.  A dog just doesn’t let all of that interfere with the most important thing, which is to live in the moment, and enjoy every second with you.

When you think about TRUE unconditional love it puts a whole new perspective on things doesn’t it?  Of course, we as humans cannot live with this kind of unconditional love.  We have to have limits and boundaries in order to stay healthy, happy and to help others understand what is acceptable behavior. 

Still, what a cute little four-legged reminder of how to live in the moment, accept what is in front of us, and celebrate life.

Cherry Coley (c)

A Time For Change

Surprise, I’ve decided to “re-do me” again!

Well, okay, anyone that knows me personally knows that I am an ever-changing person, sometimes to the point that I can be hard to keep up with or even understand.  I have a million (or so) interests, hobbies, past times, and LOVE research.  Yes, to the point of being a geek at times, I love to find interesting tidbits of information and have been known to take weeks, months, years to follow all the trails of information back to the origin of where whatever it is came from. 

 I have tried at times in my life to be normal and fit into the mold of every day existence and, to be honest, I just don’t fit into molds all that well.  I have driven many philosophical friends to the brink of wanting to choke me because about the time they think they have me all figured out, I change directions.  Sorry about that.  When I am truly happy, the only real constant thing in my life, is change. 

 Funny isn’t it?  I am told constantly how most people don’t like change, either by their actions or words. They like things to be a certain way, and happen in a certain order and all line up within a certain range of actions that unfold perfectly to become this big picture that they had in mind.  I have a lot of friends this way and love and appreciated each and every single one of them! 

 I look back and wonder where this part of me came from.  I can’t say that this was an inherited thing; my parents lived in the same house since 1953 when it was built.  My other family has been in the same places for ten years or more.  Yet I have moved five times since 2006, and am about to move again.  This happened for various reasons, but still, it’s something that doesn’t really bother me that much.  It’s odd considering how I am a person that loves history and putting down roots.  I adore looking at old houses, buildings, churches and have a strong desire to see the cathedrals of the world simply for the architectural beauty. 

 I am a “go with the flow” person through and through.  I simply jump into the current of things that cross my path and take great joy in finding out what is being offered and where the path leads.  Much to the dismay, and sometimes fear of my parents, it’s just something I have always done.  I have many friends in many different religions, beliefs, cultures, and jobs because of it.  I enjoy having a great Bible discussion and studying the gospels as much as I enjoy learning new meditation techniques, Reiki, and Zen beliefs.  It doesn’t confuse me in the least as I already know what I believe and why. 

 I love studying psychology, philosophy and physics too.  The human mind is an amazing, adaptable thing capable of anything.  I am so thankful to be here in this wonderful age of information where you can find so much knowledge available at your fingertips!  It’s a great world we live in full of endless possibilities!  What a privilege to be a lifetime learner right now! 

 As for me, I’m moving again, and will be adjusting to a brand new environment filled with new possibilities.  Yes, I know it’s just a new residence, but then I’ve also found some new groups to go check out and people to talk too.  There are new adventures on the horizon!

 Cherry Coley ©