Oh December! You are Almost Here!

100_5469This year started on a stressful note and has decided to try to end that way as well.  This has been a very challenging time for a lot of people.  2017 has been a year of losing friends and loved one’s.  Yet, there is no path, no time so dark that light cannot break through.

I have thought a lot about mindset and what it means to me.  We have a choice on how we look at things and how we respond.  Never forget you have this choice, it is yours alone.  Me?  I am a spiritual being on a physical journey.  Knowing that helps me get through the tough times.  Everything in this life is temporary, both good and bad.  Knowing that keeps things tolerable and enjoyable.  Keep your head up through the tough times and realize that no matter what difficulty you are facing, it’s temporary.  Take time for the good things.  More importantly, take time to notice the good.

Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the struggle we forget to appreciate the sunrise or sunset.  We forget to notice that gentle breeze, or the color of the leaves this time of year.  Oh to absorb even a part of the excitement a dog feels when he see’s you walking toward him again.  Whether it’s been 5 minutes or 5 days, that dog doesn’t care.  They are ready to run around, wag their tail, bark, and show you how excited they are that you are there with them.

Take a moment to breathe.  Take a moment to be thankful.  You are still here.  You still have a purpose and as long as you don’t quit, there is still time, still hope.  December is going to be a good month.

Cherry Coley (c)

Morning Sunrise!

photo by Casey Keal

photo by Casey Keal

I can’t think of a more beautiful reminder of a new day, new hope and new beginning than the sunrise each morning.  If you haven’t witnessed the sun coming up recently, then take the time to do so, you won’t regret it. 

There is just something magically reassuring to see the darkness gradually give way to the approaching light.  Then all of a sudden the sun will break over the horizon and light up the sky with rays of color that spread until the darkness has to flee before it.

 I am so thankful for sunrises, though the night might seem long, cold and bleak, the sun brings warmth and clarity.  Things that were hidden in the dark are made known in the light.  So it is that when life seems dark and hopeless we can remember that the sun will soon shine again if we just hold on, just wait a little longer, we will be rewarded with a brighter day.

Cherry Coley (c)

Thinking Out Loud

You can’t control all the events in your life, that is a given fact.  You can control your reaction, your thoughts, your actions.  You can keep your mind open so you notice opportunities along the way.  You can take advantage of the resources that are available to you at any given time.  You can also reach out to others and find that there are those that will help you along the way.

Life is full of change, storms, mountains, valleys, sunlight and darkness, it’s just the way it is.  How you handle things is a choice.  At any given moment in the middle of joy, or crisis, there are choices to be made.  Don’t let your emotions get in the way of good judgement, take a break, take the time and choose wisely.

Cherry Coley (c)

Grief Knocks Again


Grief, you think you have it down, you’ve worked through it, got control of things again and are making some progress and WHAP it throws you to the floor for another whole round of “what if’s” and “should have’s” and “you didn’t” that will take your breath away and leave you sitting in darkness.  Demons whisper and taunt in the darkness they try to drown you in guilt, anger, self-pity and sadness. 

My heart goes out to those who have lost, sometimes the pain is almost too much to handle.  Yet even in the darkness there can be comfort, even in the depths there is hope.  Darkness cannot hold on forever, the sun will rise and the dawn will break, then the darkness has no choice to flee, yes, that is what I know to be true and hold on too. 

Right now it’s just a dark path in the woods and it’s just another part of this journey that continues to mold and make us who we are.  Here too there are lessons to be learned.  Here we are reminded of our humanity and that we have hearts that will break and bleed when wounded.  Here we learn to seek solace, solitude, and most of all, God.  For even in the darkest night, He is there. 

It is in the deepest loss that we realize the value of what we had and what we still have.  Not to say that we don’t appreciate the people in our lives already, but losing someone suddenly brings time into focus to clearly and you realize how valuable the moments we share are.  Time is not an endless resource, don’t take it for granted or waste it.

Tonight, the flame of my candle barely burns, yet I am still here, and still have a purpose so I know that deep down the fire will continue and tomorrow the flame will be a little brighter, a little warmer. 

Cherry Coley (c)