I was feeling a bit down today. The weather was a bit gloomy, hazy, wet outside, and it was just one of those days. At least that’s what I told myself this morning. Then I wondered why.
Why was I just accepting that I was having a “blue” day? Was it disappointment over something? Did I not like how someone was treating me? Was it the weather? Am I not happy about where I am or things that are going on in my life right now? What?
Does any of that matter? The answer is no, if you are living life from a proactive perspective instead of a reactive perspective none of the above makes any difference at all.
Being in a proactive mindset means that I CHOOSE how I feel in the morning. I get to choose my attitude, perspective and my approach to everything that comes into my life each day. That’s an enormous amount of personal power if you think about it. Does it mean if I have a car wreck in the morning I won’t react and be upset? Not necessarily, but it is still my choice to BE upset.
Freedom comes in knowing that you can choose how you feel about any given circumstance, event, or situation at any given time. So think about this, if you feel unappreciated, you feel jealousy, you feel taken for granted, or you feel unloved, why not take a moment – stop and ask yourself: are these feelings and is this behavior contributing to my health and happiness? What am I getting from feeling this way? It definitely doesn’t make you feel good. So why choose to feel that way?
Today make the choice to take a good look at how you are responding to things in your life. Are you being proactive and choosing how you will feel and your attitude? Are you looking for the opportunities in any given situation? Or are you living in response to things that are going on?
When we live in response we are living with our feelings hanging out there in the open. Emotions unchecked can cloud judgment. Clouded judgment will keep you from seeing the opportunities and choices available to you. How many times have you felt unappreciated or unloved, had things spiral into arguments or upset, only to find out later it was a misunderstanding?
If you’re feeling down, like I was, stop to take a moment to appreciate your blessing and the good things in your life. When you get in the attitude of being grateful it gets harder to feel down and stay that way. Thank God for another day, I did, then I felt much better.
Cherry Coley (c)
- Only Proactive People Can Genuinely Love Others, Reactive People Can’t (updated) (realtruelove.wordpress.com)
- Two A’s: Acceptance and Attitude (mymendingwall.com)