I’ve often heard the saying that many men can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad. I think this is true, just as it’s true that many women can be a mother, but it takes someone special to be a mom.
Being a parent is about so much more than genetics and just having a child. The truth is that a baby changes everything. Suddenly you are more aware of your surroundings, and things you just walked by before, or barely gave a passing glance, are now items you carefully consider, pick up, throw away, or even lock up so they won’t cause harm.
Suddenly sleep becomes a fleeting thing of great value. Naptime is guarded at all costs. Time alone is almost unheard of, even in the restroom; there might be that hesitant knock and tiny fingers probing under the door.
The pitter patter of little feet was pretty much just toddler stage for us, after that it was stomping, jumping, tap dancing, and skipping. The tuner for inside voices didn’t work too well most of the time either.
Then there’s the kid who has to test what you mean when you say “no.” They push the buttons, turn the knobs, tight rope walk across the back of the couch, build a “castle” with the cushions from the couch and chairs, play fort with the coffee table and kitchen table, try to flush the cat down the toilet, and see if Dr. Pepper will make the dog hyper. These kids are the creative one’s that we want to both throttle and encourage because they will pave the way to the future.
My youngest daughter is one of these kids that just has to try it to see what will happen. She tried to swing on a water hose from a tree and unfortunately, another little girl jerked the hose away as she leaned out, causing her to fall and break her leg. She spent the better part of 5th grade year in a cast. I painted a dragon on the cast to try to help with the awkward feeling of being a kid in a cast.
Then there are the reasoning kids who want to know the in’s and out’s of how things work so they can decide what to do and how to do it, my oldest daughter is my super analytical child of reason.
It’s funny how God has such a sense of humor that He takes half our personality and places it in one kid and half in another. They are night and day different from each other, but both like their parents. It will definitely keep you on your toes and keep life interesting. Whatever the case, motherhood and fatherhood are the greatest gifts.
Cherry Coley ©
- Cosby – Fatherhood (celclibrary.wordpress.com)
- The First Step (mummy-baby.com)
- The Gift of Mothers (deaconjohnspace.wordpress.com)