After reading many different articles about balancing life, how to “be happy,” and articles of making the most of things, I have to say that I firmly believe that all of us, whether we claim to be some sort of expert or not, are simply winging it and figuring out things that work for us.
There, I said it! We are all virtually in the same boat, though some of us sound like we know what we are doing more than others obviously; we are all still struggling with different variations of the same issues along the way.
Chances are that perfect psychologist and counselor still has parenting issues, they get all unorganized and thrown off guard by circumstances now and then, just like the rest of us, but they’ve conditioned themselves to hide things better, hold it together, fake it until they make it, and so on.
Maybe I’m an odd person, but as far as I’m concerned it helps me to know that others are struggling with the same things I am. It is a great reminder that we are all human and all here to help each other along the way. When someone falls down in front of you, do you just step over them and keep walking? Hopefully, you stop and lend a hand if needed, after all that could be you that just fell.
Most people know I am a believer in positive thinking and good attitudes. I believe the Law of Attraction to be true too. I don’t believe there are any magic, get rich schemes that work, but I do believe you reap what you sow, get what you give, and that is exactly what the Law of Attraction is. If you walk around complaining all the time and focusing on all the things you don’t like, don’t want, don’t have, then you will get more of the same. Say what? Yes, this is true! You, by focusing all your attention on the things you don’t want in your life, are bringing more of the exact same things into your life. You reap what you sow and if all you sow, plant, speak of, are the things that make you unhappy, then you are going to get more of what you are focusing on. It’s a simple concept really and is quoted all through the Bible, presented in various religious beliefs, philosophy, parables, and stories throughout history and current day.
My grandmother used to say, “You can’t grow an oak tree by planting a rock.” Well, you can’t get much clearer than that!
So how do you change the cycle and start down a better path? Start with small, achievable daily goals. Make a point to find things that interest you and that you enjoy doing. Surround yourself with people who will build you up, encourage you along the way, and preferably give you not just positive feedback, but also honest feedback. Sometimes honesty hurts, but we need to gain that different perspective in order to really see where we are so we can move forward.
Find things that won’t just temporarily motivate you, but that you can legitimately get excited about and then stop and notice, celebrate your achievements along the way. It will make all the difference if you celebrate as you go along. If you just keep checking off goals and going on you could lose your motivation, even though you are making progress. Life is about celebrating and noticing the little things along the way. Make sure you let people who will not just understand, but will encourage you know about your achievements. This may or may not be your closest friends and family, don’t let it get you down if your family and closest friends are not the people who fill these roles! They are, after all the people who see you and know you better than others, so they may not be so willing to believe you can change and do all you think you can. This is a normal thing and is also why it’s very important to find people that are going to support you on the journey you are currently on. Your family and friends will come around eventually and after they see the changes in you. Be prepared though, sometimes it happens that when you make a lot of personal changes and growth, you may have to make changes in who you spend a lot of your time with in order to keep going and living up to your full potential. No one said the journey would be easy, just that it would be worth it. So don’t give up on a dream that matters to you, no matter your circumstance, environment, age or status, you can do it and will find a way if you want it bad enough.
Okay, that’s my spiel on positive thinking and good attitudes. Starting with, we are all human and in the same boat and ending with, maybe you need to switch boats, but if you find the niche that makes you happy and are true to yourself then the positive thinking and good attitude take no conscious effort, it will just come naturally.
Cherry Coley ©