All posts tagged: Self Help

The End or the Beginning?

“Every Beginning has an end, every end had a beginning.”  It’s a funny quote that can lead to some deep thought if you let it.  It’s sad sometimes when things come to an end.  There are a lot of things we don’t like to see end, yet everything in life has a beginning and an end. When relationships end it can be a sad event.  You don’t really want them to, but things just start to drift apart.  Sometimes you can stop the drifting and sometimes you can’t.  I’ve been in relationships like that where things just changed and it was time for the relationship to change too.  On a few of those occasions I was fortunate enough to see the relationship evolve and become a lasting friendship, in other cases it was simply time to say goodbye. How we respond to the changes in life can help define who we become.  After all, if there is one thing that is constant and certain in life it is the fact that life will change.  We will …

Let’s Do This!

Those who really want to accomplish something will find a way; those who are not committed will find an excuse. When you make excuses about why things didn’t get done, or create obstacles to use as an excuse to give up on that project, diet, or exercise routine the only person you are really hurting is yourself, right?  Wrong.  Like it or not we are all part of a community of sorts.  We each have friends, co-workers, and family members in our lives that pay attention to our choices and decisions.  What you do and don’t do, affects the people around you.  Someone who make excuses about meeting deadlines, or personal goals rarely exceeds anywhere else.  I know for me I have to be careful because the excuses try to slip in there unnoticed when I least expect it.  “I can’t go jogging tonight, it got dark outside too quick,” or “I wound up running errands for other people the last few days and it threw me off my whole routine.”  Life happens, accidents, incidents, whatever …

Begin with the End in Mind

When you focus on the big picture or the end result, then it is easier to figure out how to get where you’re going.  This is not how I was taught to do things.  I was taught to make a daily to do list, set some goals both small and large to work towards, then go for it.  To go towards a mark in the manner I was taught is challenging and requires an enormous amount of self control, not to mention it means to allow yourself to get distracted or even slightly off track can throw major kinks in the plan, leading to discouragement, disappointment and even make you want to just quit at times.  To keep your eyes on the big picture, to focus on the end result means that your plans, your goals, your to do list become much more flexible and easier to work with. In this life we are always free to choose our own paths, what we have no control over are the consequences and circumstances that come with …

Sliding Goals, Vision Boards, and Keeping Focus

Well, that didn’t work.  Entering into the new year meant that I reinstalled some good habits to help reach my goals, said goodbye to some old habits that weren’t really serving me well anymore, and replaced those old and bad habits with new one’s that would help me get where I wanted to go. This method of replacing the old and bad habits works really well since it’s a thousand times harder to just stop doing something than it is to replace the bad habits with something else.  However, in the last few months I have found something interesting along the way, at least as far as I’m concerned.  I have discovered that if I don’t keep up the good habits that I replaced the bad habits with, I will fall right back into the bad habits!!  What the heck!  I seriously thought it would be harder to fall back than that, however, it makes sense since I was living with the bad habits far longer than the good ones.    For instance, I took up …

Positive Thinking and The Law of Attraction

After reading many different articles about balancing life, how to “be happy,” and articles of making the most of things, I have to say that I firmly believe that all of us, whether we claim to be some sort of expert or not, are simply winging it and figuring out things that work for us.   There, I said it!  We are all virtually in the same boat, though some of us sound like we know what we are doing more than others obviously; we are all still struggling with different variations of the same issues along the way.   Chances are that perfect psychologist and counselor still has parenting issues, they get all unorganized and thrown off guard by circumstances now and then, just like the rest of us, but they’ve conditioned themselves to hide things better, hold it together, fake it until they make it, and so on.  Maybe I’m an odd person, but as far as I’m concerned it helps me to know that others are struggling with the same things I am.  It is …