Friday

A New Beginning

Pic by C Coley

Pic by C Coley

 

Today Is September 13th, Friday 13th.  Even now there is still some dread, some superstition about this day.  I like Friday 13th.

This has been an interesting year for our family. I can’t think of a better day to start fresh, to start to move forward.  Why not start with the unusual?

Friday the 13th is just another day and as in the case of every other day we have the choice of how we perceive it, how we approach it, and how we spend the day.  So adjust your attitude and choose to celebrate being alive!  Make the most of your time while you can, nothing is promsed.  Life is too precious to waste worrying about superstitions.

Cherry Coley (c)

 

 

Start Something Right Now!

fellowshipThe news of the Connecticut shootings made me angry, then heartbroken.  I cannot begin to imagine the pain the families of the victims are feeling, or the pain of the children that survived and have to deal with great loss so early in their lives. 

 I don’t believe we should ever mention the criminals in these types of crimes.  They should remain nameless – “Devil Walking” – that’s how they should be referred to.  Never should they be reported by name, never should they be remembered.  Take away the fame and the pictures, the stories of their lives.  They are a Devil Walking doing unspeakable harm, and that’s all anyone needs to know. 

If they are brave enough to live through their crime spree then they should forever be stripped of their identity, they should have their names taken away and be made to spend the rest of their lives sending financial support to the families of the victims.  With a consequence like that they might think before committing such crimes.  Where are their rights? They gave them up when they took the lives of others

 Yet, the mass shooting Devils perform the ultimate cowardly act of committing suicide and going down in history.  Stop it!  They don’t need to be remembered.  The innocent lives they took – THOSE people are worth remembering, they were stripped of their lives, their hopes, their dreams, all taken in an instant. 

 On the flip side of this I can only say that mental instability is a growing problem.  The answer  - don’t just pray.  Prayer is good, but prayer is NOT ENOUGH!  Get involved, be aware of the people in your life.  Take time to get to know them individually.  Take time to find out what they are going through and if they need help, offer it if you can, or offer them a place to genuinely find help, above all – CARE

 There are at this very moment people all around each and every one of us that are hurting.  The economy is bad, there are people going through job loss, financial worries, sickness and dealing with losing family members and friends.  How many people do you ask how they are doing each day, and actually stay around to hear the answer?  Do you just want to see them smile and say “fine” So you can go on your way?  Would you like someone to ask you how you’re doing and know that they care what you say next?

 It’s interesting how in an age when we are all so “connected” with social media sites and texting, we are disconnected for the actual events in each other’s lives.  Those people that share their problems in the social media world can be shoved to the hidden lists or skipped over if they complain too much, or if things never seem to get better for them, God forbid the issues last too long.  It’s easy to stop answering the texts or stop checking on someone if they are continuously having a hard time, don’t move on, or things don’t improve after a while.  We are not a society that breeds patience. 

 Seeking help for working through problems, divorce, grief, job loss, abuse, health problems, from a therapist needs to stop being a stigma.  If you need the help, get it.  Stop worrying about what the masses think or say, it doesn’t matter what the social world thinks, what matters is that you are healthy and living the best life possible.

 What’s that saying? It takes a village to raise a child?  How about we rewrite that to read – it takes a community of caring individuals working together to create and maintain a healthy environment to live in.  Let’s start today, reach out to the people in your life and get to know them, you will be glad you did and so will they.

 Cherry Coley ©

It’s Friday the 13th

Well, I was wondering what to write about – so I decided to write the obvious, or the most available topic, or the most convenient, whatever, I just chose this one, so there!

Did you know that there was no real superstition about Friday 13th before the 19th century?  There is one theory that suggests the superstition is actually a combination of two older superstitions.  Friday was always considered an unlucky day and since 12 was considered the number of completion, 13 was also considered unlucky. 

I have actually witnessed a few unlucky Friday the 13th events myself.  When I was working downtown in Lincoln Tower, in 1994, we were prevented from going in the glass skyscraper because the 13th floor was “weeping.”  The sprinkler system had burst overnight and there was so much water on the floor that it was running down the outside of the building and raining on those walking below.  When the first pane of glass fell we were told to go home.  There went the underwriting department and all those computers and files were a disaster.  It was a messy and lengthy cleanup.

For the most part though, I have never thought of Friday as an unlucky day.  Why would it be unlucky?  I can remember my grandmother telling me that it was a bad day for travel and beginnings, but realistically, I look forward to Friday’s and especially Friday afternoon and night.  Friday is the end of the work week if you work in an office.  It’s the beginning of the weekend and most people look forward to Friday night because they don’t have to get up early on Saturday.  I usually plan weekend trips and short vacations starting on Friday’s whether it’s the 13th or not. 

The funniest thing is hearing my kids say, “Mom, there’s a “new” Friday the 13th movie out!”

SERIOUSLY?  I think I was the same or about the same age when the first one came out!  How many of those movies are there?  Shouldn’t Jason be dead of old age, or at least bored with the whole thing by now?  Oh, wait, he’s out hanging around with Freddy Kruger who was also making nightmares real somewhere around the same time.

The weather has been a bit hazy today , but okay, nothing disastrous happened at work other than people calling in because this website didn’t work, or this check didn’t come in, or something else wasn’t done the way they wanted.   

As for me, I still like Friday and I’m glad it’s today!  I’m going to go home,  love on my black cat, walk around and under the ladder in the garage, pop some popcorn, move some more boxes in the living room for easy unpacking, and watch a movie, but not Friday 13th.

Cherry Coley ©