All posts tagged: Forgiveness

Pity Party Extravaganza!

I threw myself a pity party the other day.  I tried to invite some friends, but they weren’t really buying into it.  I had the sad music on, whined and sulked and sat in the dark.  What the heck I was doing?   So what is the purpose of a pity party?  For the life of me I don’t know.  It seems to be an excuse to let negative emotions and imagination run wild, making us resent, regret, cry over, and even get angry about things that were not done right or areas we were wronged in our lives.  Pity parties are not enjoyable; after all being in the throes of negative emotions is not a fun thing to experience.  Yet some choose to have long and lingering pity parties that can go on for years and become addictive / habit forming behavior.  I believe the real purpose of a pity party and that sinking feeling you get when you know you are headed in that direction, is that they are a wakeup call.  A reminder that problems …

Happy New Year, New Start, New Outlook!

Ahead there is a new path, do not be afraid, you have not passed this way before. It is finally here, 2013, a new year holding unlimited promise for a bright future.  I can’t say that I was sad to see 2012 go away as it was a challenging, hard and often depressing year.  The holidays proved to be one of the hardest times I have ever lived through, the grief was hard to keep in check and some days I simply could not do it. So on New Years Eve I made a promise to myself that I would again do the burning bowl ritual. I wrote all my excuses, grievances, fears and regrets on pieces of paper and offered them up with much thought, a prayer and burned release at midnight. One by one I let go of all that was holding me back, keeping me down and blinding my sight for the future.  I am free.  The ashes of what once was are gone, scattered in the wind.  I am thankful.  I am at peace where I …

Grudges and Resentment? Forgiveness is better

“Our purpose in life should be to see one another through, not see through one another,” – Zig Ziglar I saw this quote this morning and had to stop and really think about it.  I have to admit, there have been times someone has kind of rubbed me the wrong way and I spent more time trying to see through them and what they were up too, and not just helping them along.  I confess to not being the most trusting person, though I do try to give people the benefit of the doubt, especially when I first meet them, but if they should betray my trust or lie to me in some fashion then it will take a long time and a lot of good experiences with them for me to begin to trust them again.  That’s not to say I am holding grudges.  I am not a grudge holder in the least.  I will, usually, forgive the action, but not be so willing to trust the person whole heartedly again.  Grudges are hurtful …