It is finally here, 2013, a new year holding unlimited promise for a bright future.
I can’t say that I was sad to see 2012 go away as it was a challenging, hard and often depressing year.
The holidays proved to be one of the hardest times I have ever lived through, the grief was hard to keep in check and some days I simply could not do it.
So on New Years Eve I made a promise to myself that I would again do the burning bowl ritual.
I wrote all my excuses, grievances, fears and regrets on pieces of paper and offered them up with much thought, a prayer and burned release at midnight.
One by one I let go of all that was holding me back, keeping me down and blinding my sight for the future. I am free. The ashes of what once was are gone, scattered in the wind. I am thankful. I am at peace where I am, with who I am and with my past. I am ready to move forward, to embrace the future whole heartedly.
What are your goals? Have you made New Years resolutions? Have you created a calendar, set deadlines to meet along the way?
This year I decided resolutions are not enough. This year I made commitments to myself instead. I will eat healthier. I will exercise regularly and take my health seriously. I will take more calculated risks. I will be involved in community and charity work. I will make a difference. I will take an active part in life and not just exist, but live, really live.
Whatever you resolved to do, or change this year, take a moment to reflect, to plan, to decide, to set goals, and celebrate when you reach those goals, find ways to hold yourself accountable, or find a partner so you can encourage and hold each other accountable along the way.
Life is more than just struggling to make ends meet. It’s more than going to work and coming home at the end of the day. Life is more than routines and schedules. Laugh, play, strive, struggle, encourage, have faith, love, and reach out to help others along the way. Live. Happy 2013, may this new year bring you more joy than you’ve ever known.
Cherry Coley (c)
The past few months have been a roller coaster of emotion, grief, odd events and illnesses, and a few bouts of chaos. Enough already!
I like to take the month of November to remember things to be thankful for. It is the month to celebrate Thanksgiving and I can’t think of a better way to gear up for the holiday. To make a point of being thankful each day for the things we sometimes take for granted, and the people in our lives is the best way I know to give the actual feasting day a more fulfilling and joyful meaning.
On this first day of November, I am thankful for our home. Though I am thankful for the house itself and having a roof over our heads, I am more thankful for the things that make it a home. The warm colors chosen to enhance and add warmth, the cozy furniture that we all enjoy, and a few rooms where we can all gather to watch a movie, spend time talking, or eating make our house a place of comfort and safety.
Take a moment today to look around and notice the things where you live that make it your home, add comfort, usefulness or beauty. Sometimes it is the small items that bring back the best memories and add a sense of well-being.
Cherry Coley ©
To be honest, Valentine’s Day has never been my favorite holiday. Charlie Brown and I share a lot of the same experiences, although, I think he beat me in not getting a single one. I was always a little mad at Snoopy for not giving him a Valentine; after all he DID feed the dog.
The more I talk to other people the more I’ve realized that this holiday doesn’t hold fond memories for many of us. Some of the places I’ve worked made a big deal out of Valentine’s Day, going so far as trading the little Valentine’s and pinning them up on your cubicle walls. It was (like in elementary school) a popularity contest. Those who didn’t receive a lot of Valentine’s felt left out or disappointed.
So this year, toss out the old thoughts about the holiday. This year take Valentine’s Day back and remember what it SHOULD be. Take this and make it not just one day, but the first day of the year to celebrate the love of life. It doesn’t matter who you are, or where you are, or who you’re with, take the time to celebrate those you love and care about in your world. That’s what it should be about. No more grieving over lost love, or longing for someone, just realize that you are here, you are still alive, you still matter and you can still make a difference. Do something fun and silly! The girls and I celebrate by getting valentine pj’s (goofy one’s) every year. Another idea is to take this time to pamper yourself.
So on Valentine’s Day get up and put a smile on your face, remember that this day is a great day to do something nice for someone else. Start a tradition of caring and sharing. If you do have that special someone in your life, you should show them each and every day what they mean to you, not just one day. A good attitude and kind behavior is contagious. What a great way to remember the day and you don’t even have to buy candy!
Cherry Coley (c)