Walls and Bridges

Sometimes we are lonely because we have built far more walls than bridges.

We are a society of walls, fences and protected privacy.  We are taught that these things will keep us safe and protected from harm.  In an age of information, there is a lot of truth to that.

However, it is also true that if we are not careful we find ourselves building walls around our heart and mind as well.  It happens when we get hurt by someone we love or respect a great deal.  It happens because life dictates that we all have our fair share of hard knocks to keep us humble, and help us grow, however we choose how to respond to these events.

The most important weapon we will ever own as individuals is the gift of choice.  We cannot always choose events, or circumstances.  We cannot predict mishaps and unfortunate occurrences.  The one thing we can do is decide how we will respond, the attitude we will take and how we will allow these life events to affect us.  Your responses, attitude and approach to life are the only things you have complete control over at any given point in your life. 

Choose to respond positively. 

Choose to learn and adjust your attitude to your own advantage.

Choose to share what you have experienced.

Don’t shut out the world with walls and fences, build some bridges and share the knowledge with others.  That is how we will change the world, one person at a time, starting with the person in the mirror.

Cherry Coley ©

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Life is a gift, not to be wasted or taken for granted. I believe life is a journey, that we are put here for a purpose that each of us has to discover within ourselves. Each day we are given is a new opportunity to seize the moments, the experiences that make up our individual journey. I have seen my share of storms along the way, but have learned that with faith and good friends, there is nothing that you can’t face, learn from, and come out growing stronger from the experience. I have many interests, hobbies and passions. Writing, art, and expanding my knowledge about why people believe what they do, including studying different religions and cultures, becoming a Life Coach, practicing Reiki, and spending time with my girls, are some of my passions. Interests include: studying history, science, physics, walking/running, learning yoga, Pilates, trying new recipes, finding new and interesting places to visit, spending time with friends, learning new ways of doing things, guitar, piano, writing songs, photography, and painting and so much more than I could name here. I enjoy meeting new people, trading stories, ideas and sharing experiences. I love going to plays and concerts, and encouraging others to be their best while finding myself along the way. Cherry Coley (c)
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10 Responses to Walls and Bridges

  1. “…starting with the person in the mirror.”

    yes, Yes, YES!

  2. timzauto says:

    Nice post Cherry , I posted tonight about new friends , for me anyway are very hard to trust because of the angles people play . It’s getting harder to trust , seems people are out for themselves . It’s hard for me sometimes , cause of my past ..I was one of these people . I have been drug free for almost 5 months and in my past I had ever angle there was . I know how to spot a fake …and I’m trying so hard to reconcile myself . I’m very lonely at times and look forward to a good conversation , Building walls it seems is all I can do…I’m talking all over the place , but think your post has a lot of good ideas in it …Please check out my post and tell me what you think …If you have time …Thanks so much…Tim

    • I know exactly what you mean, Tim. I think we all struggle for a place to belong, and to find true friends. We just have to keep going. I love your posts!

  3. nice post! I agree – build bridges, not walls. Yet i am traveling in the US, and all I see right now are walls. Mind you I am at an airport in a relatively big city :-)

  4. Great advice! But not always easy.

  5. lifebegins45 says:

    Jennifer is right. It’s not easy to build bridges. Or to tear down walls that have been there for, seemingly, forever. Yet, it’s amazing how, when you chose to focus on positives, react in a balanced way, and continue to build your integrity (mine, in my case), the bridges sometimes form themselves.

    “The one thing we can do is decide how we will respond, the attitude we will take and how we will allow these life events to affect us.” These are the building blocks to bridges with beautiful scenery :D Great post!

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